3 Ways to Identify Fake Friends

Jasmine Adetunji, Author

“How can I tell if my friends are fake?”

There are many unfortunate situations that we have to go through in life. It’s a part of how we learn and grow. One of those unfortunate situations may be having fake friends. We don’t always want to believe that any of our friends are fake, especially if you have been friends for a long time. We try to see the best in those we call our friends and it can be hard to accept that some of those people may not have your best interest at heart.

(1) Fake friends are inconsiderate. They’re bad listeners and find ways to connect everything back to themselves. I think we all tend to do this sometimes. If someone is telling you a story and something similar happened to you, you’d say “Oh, this situation happened to me!” and it shifts the conversation. But I think that fake friends will make anything and everything abut them and their life but won’t bother to ask about you or your life.

(2) Fake friends are jealousSometimes it’s not blatantly obvious, but fake friends will often be jealous of your life, relationships, etc. They will to put down you and your life so that they can feel better about themselves.

(3) Fake friends are fake towards other people. If you find that your friend gossips about their own friends, then it may be likely that they are fake towards you as well. Have you ever noticed that all someone talks about is other people? It makes you wonder if they talk about you to others and it’s very likely that they do.

There are many ways that you can identify fake friends, but those are three that I find are the most obvious. So, now what? For most people, it’s not super easy to just cut people out of their lives. If you can, possibly confront this person. If you think that they’re going through a rough patch and are acting out, talk it out. If you really think that this person doesn’t have your best interest at heart, I would cut them off gradually. Maybe unfollow them on social media and stop hanging out with them as much. Try to surround yourself with people who are positive and inspire you to be better, so that you can spend more time with them and less time with those who drain you.